Wednesday, September 21, 2016

F riends U C an't K eep

This post is dedicated to all who have been hurt. 

I bet you just opened this because of the title and you were curious and hoping to see something completely insane.
Sorry to disappoint.

For all my regular readers, you might be surprised that I'm posting two posts in one week because even though I try to blog weekly, it never really happens. It's more of a monthly thing, but not this week, apparently.

Oh, and quick side-note update: Dannon yogurt has a greek pumpkin pie flavored yogurt and it is BOMB. I think it is, anyway. Wouldn't recommend it for the lactose-sensitive stomachs.
Alright, alright. I'll get to the real question you want the answer to here: why is this blog post titled "Fuck"?

WARNING: EXPLICIT LANGUAGE AHEAD PROCEED WITH CAUTION

Depends on the context. Most of you already know the different meanings of Fuck, but in case you don't, I'll summarize it for you. This one word has a lot of different meanings; it can be a more extreme and less religious affiliated substitute for damn, a dirtier and less intimate word for sex, the next level of "messing with," "Screw this I'm just going to walk out of here and throw shit everywhere because I don't care about anything anymore!" Basically, the use of the word "fuck" will go 1 of 4 ways most of the time (some people find very creative meanings of the word, you'd be surprised): "Fuck. I forgot to turn in my paper." "Did you fuck?" "Are you fucking with me right now?" "Fuck this, I'm done."

So why the hell am I talking about this? Honestly, I was just staring into my future...thinking about all the science and math classes I might have to take... Fuck. Fuck this, I'm done. So, these are the thoughts that go through my mind, and I came up with this:

F - Friends (friends, including: family, boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband, school classes, basically anything in your life that is relatively important in your life)
U - You
C - Can't
K - Keep

Think about all of things that are fucking with your life....
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Take your time making that list.
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Do you have it? Okay. Now, get those F.U.C.Ks out of your life. You wanna know why? Because you only get ONE life--ONE. And when you get one life, you don't have room for F.U.C.Ks. You deserve to love and be loved, no matter your past. If you're studying something in college and you think "I fucking hate this," GET THAT F.U.C.K. OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who says, "Fuck you. I'm done," or "I fucked someone else." You don't want to be in a job where you say, "Fuck this, I'm done." You don't want to have a friend (or boyfriend/girlfriend for that matter) that says, "I was just fucking with you. I'm done now." You do not want F.U.C.K.s in your life.

It takes time to realize what/who the fuck are the F.U.C.K.s in your life and that's okay, but be aware, because it sucks to live with them. And F.U.C.K.s don't have to be things or people, even––it can be anger, depression, anxiety, jealousy––F.U.C.K.s are anything that are not making you happy, they are almost toxic. I'm still struggling with this. I've been going to therapy for four years trying to get them out of my life. We all have them, but we don't always try to get rid of them.

Like if you have an abusive partner. Or a grudge. Or a past that you just can't let go of. Believe me, none of that is worth holding onto. That anger that builds up inside and eats away at you, or that thought right before you go to bed of "why wasn't I good enough?" that steals your sleep––it's not worth losing yourself over. I'm not saying you should just let people walk over you, I'm saying you should let go, for YOU, and move onto the next step in your life. Stop fucking around with the F.U.C.K.s, because they most certainly don't give a fuck about you.

I know it's not easy to let go. I never said it was going to be. But you won't regret it, and you will be happy. Remember, everything is temporary, especially your life, your ONE life. If we all just took the time to sit back and reflect on all the beautiful moments and people in our lives and separate it from the dark and hurtful, we would all realize that love is the most important part of life and if you aren't spending your time loving, you're missing out on greatest gift of life.

If you've ever loved someone and lost them, you know heartbreak. I've lost six people to death, three to anger, two to ignorance, and all in heartbreak. Some of those people were not F.U.C.K.s. But some were, and no matter how much I wanted to fix everything, I couldn't. I had to let go and open my eyes to what I did have: love.
I have a best friend. I have two amazing, beautiful cousins. I have two dumb, math-nerd bros for life. I have two of the best college roommates. I have two little sisters that, one day, are going to ask me why the world hurts so much, and I'm going to remind them that even though the world hurts, love heals us. We all have someone or something that is the LOVE in our life.

So get rid of those F.U.C.K.s in your life and fill that bottomless vacuum with the LOVEs.

*Mic drop* 

LOVE,

Alena


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