Sunday, November 27, 2016

Thank you, love.

On Thursday the 24th of November, in the United States at least, families gathered together at a dinner table and feasted until they were stuffed like a turkey. Some families bought a bucket of fried chicken, but close enough. Some families weren't together. Some people didn't have a family to eat with or even something to eat. 

Thanksgiving is about giving thanks for what you have, right? So why did they start extending Black Friday into Thanksgiving day? Why do we even have two contradictory concepts right next to each other on the calendar? Talk about irony. I'm not saying that you should feel like a greedy bastard if you go Black Friday shopping right after you said you were thankful for what you have, but that's kind of what it looks like, doesn't it? But I like Black Friday, don't get me wrong. I spent at fifty dollars at Barnes and Nobles and thirteen at Bath & Body works (originally a forty dollar value!) and that felt great. I love stuff. Stuff stuff stuff stuff!

The thing is, sometimes people get a little obsessed with having stuff they want. Think about it, even if we have a stable income, home to sleep in, food to eat, friends and family to bug us and have fun with us, we always want more. When will it end? When will we finally stop wanting more? Honestly, I feel like the cycle will never end. I admit, sometimes I think, "If only I was rich, then I would be satisfied and never ask for anything more." But that's not true, is it? Our stomachs work the same way. We eat, and then a few hours later, we're hungry again. 

I guess the point I'm trying to get across is that you don't have to worry about what you don't have because you're never going to be fully satisfied; you're never going to have it all. So you should relish in what you have, especially if you have love. Loving family, love friends, loving wife or husband or girlfriend or boyfriend, because you cannot measure love. Love is priceless. I know it sounds totally cheesy and cliché, but fuck it. If saying that love is priceless and the most valuable part of life is cliché than that's a wonderful cliché because that means many people think the same way. Love is not original, it is universal––that's the way it should be. 

So I'm thankful for the existence of love. Without it, I would not have this family with a beautiful home, warm fire, hot tea, home cooked turkey, and pumpkin pie; although we are not blood-related, I've learned that love is thicker than blood by far. Even people related to you by blood may not love you or you don't love them––yeah that sucks, but it's reality. But how do you think a husband and wife become family? Love binds people together. Be thankful for that. And don't forget it. 

Sincerely,

Alena


P.S. I've managed to write eight more pages of my book over this Thanksgiving break. I'm feeling pretty accomplished because I haven't made much progress in a while. Hopefully I'll be done by next year. Hopefully. Emphasis on the hopefully. Wish me luck. 

Monday, November 7, 2016

Waiting for the Great Perhaps.

Sometimes you just have to wait.
But don't waste your time while you wait.

While you wait for whatever you're waiting for, go out and live. I know everyone says "Just live," and it's not as easy as it sounds, believe me, I know. But you have to do it anyway because that's the only way you'll be able to get through the wait.

The time will tauntingly tick away if you just lay there until the happy holidays arrive, until your friend comes over to hang out, until the girl or boy texts you back––life is too fucking short to just wait for good things to happen. You have to seek out happiness because it's not going to just fall into your lap from the sky. That's not how life works. That line from Looking For Alaska by John Green––"I go to seek a Great Perhaps––" says it all. GO to SEEK––these are active verbs, which means YOU must be actively doing things in order to find GREATNESS. YOU have to make things happen, you can't WAIT for life to make things happen for you.

Now, I'm saying all of this because I've noticed that people, especially now with the holiday season upon us, say "I can't wait until _______ !" You don't have to wait. You can enjoy the present presents, not the future presents, because you can enjoy the future presents in the future; you can only enjoy the present while it is present.
I'll let you think about that for a second.
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What can you do in thirty minutes? In an hour? Probably an episode of a TV show on Netflix, right? Sure, I guess, but is that really going to get you any closer to your "Great Perhaps" ? Anyway, let's make a little list. (Most of these are things I would do, but maybe some of them are the same as yours).

- Workout
- Read a chapter or so of a book you've been meaning to read for months (or years).
- Try to climb a tree
- Download some music on your phone
- Clean your room
- Decorate a part of your room
- Write
- Draw/Paint
- Call a friend and catch up with them
- Go for a walk and see where you end up
- Research random information
- Watch a Ted Talk (I personally find these as a source of learning so it's not technically "junk" TV)
- Text your friends and hang out
- Hike (Off-trail for you daring people. Just don't get lost.)
- Talk to someone new
- Shop
- write a song and then never finish it
- Go to a music shop and try to play all of the instruments
- Write a bucket list
- Go to a sports game
- Play an easy-going game of soccer or baseball or whatever with friends but get fired up on the competition
- Go to the humane society and gawk at how cute the dogs are
- Take the personality on 16personalities.com because it will change your outlook on yourself (might need to take it a couple of times for accuracy)

L I V E while you W A I T.

If you guys want, you can comment below and suggest something for the list. I'm sure everyone needs some more ideas besides mine because I have a rather odd idea of fun. I made this post because waiting doesn't have to be boring. It doesn't have to feel like waiting at all. And there are things in this life worth living for, you just have to find them. You can't wait around for them.
Maybe there is such a thing as fate and destiny, maybe not, but why wait around to find out when you can literally just go out and find the thing you were looking for in the same amount of time?

Seek a Great Perhaps and it will seek you in return.


Love,

Alena